The Invited: I responded to a facebook post today that asked the question, why am I the only one who invites people to get together? This person commented that no one ever invites her and she feels so alone. She asked, "do I just need to get different friends? Is there something wrong with me?
A few years ago a friend of mine gave me some sage advice. She said something that changed how I chose to look at my own similar complaining.
She said, Shel, God created you to be the one inviting and them to be the ones who are invited.
So I've decided to look at this from the lens of truth instead of what the enemy wanted me to believe. The enemy, the devil, wanted me to believe that I am being rejected when others weren't doing the reaching out.
I have learned to believe that It never has been about a rejection from them when they didn't do the inviting. Instead of rejection it is an invitation from them to connect with me when I invite and they show up. They are saying "I love you" when they respond to my text, when they say yes to my coffee invite-and even when they later may have to cancel, it is still a message that I am not rejected, instead I am loved because they chose to say yes and then chose to let me know that their day became too much and now they need to not show up for that coffee date.
Invite others into conversations. Invite them into your deep places. Invite them in. That's who you were created to be, it's what you were called to do.
You are never alone.
The enemy wants you to believe that, but it's not the truth.
God never leaves you nor forsakes you.
He invites you to the table. He invites you to be who he created you to be and you are in community with those He's created to be invited. It's a huge honor to be living in our divine gifting and purpose.
This reflection is powerful and resonates deeply with the concept of viewing our roles and relationships through a lens of purpose rather than resentment. It flips the narrative in a way that aligns beautifully with gratitude, faith, and understanding of God's unique design for each of us.
The idea of being "the inviter" is a divine perspective shift. Instead of focusing on what feels lacking, this viewpoint celebrates your role as a connector, someone who brings people together. It’s a ministry in itself—a way to reflect God's love by creating space for others, whether it’s over coffee or through meaningful conversations.
The reminder that a canceled invitation isn’t rejection but an honest communication of boundaries is another freeing truth. It reframes those moments as opportunities to appreciate honesty and maintain connection, even when plans change. This perspective encourages extending grace and interpreting actions with love rather than insecurity.
I especially love how this ties back to God's invitation to us—to be in communion with Him and to trust that we are never truly alone. The enemy thrives on isolation, but God’s truth calls us into community and purpose. By inviting others, we mirror God’s heart, creating a ripple effect of connection and love.
How can you see this perspective shaping your future interactions? Could you make a list of specific people you’d like to "invite" more intentionally in the coming weeks?
I would love to personally invite you to have coffee with me. I am created to be a connector and it is my responsibility to reach out to you. So the invitiation is an open one. So now it's your turn. If you have been gifted as a receiver, please resond to this message and I'll find space to put you on the calendar for an in person coffee chat or a zoom video chat. I promise that it will be a time of blessing as it is God that invites us to commune with each other. Hope to see you soon.
Coach Shel
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